More TK and dropping sanity fixes

[SECBATON-GRIFFON]

[bugfix][consistency]

What this does

gets some ones i missed, changes the line back to before #36469 but with an alternate loc check (turns out adjacent is only one-directional, hence the issues it caused)
extends create_in_hands to support forcemoved items, messages and sounds (i notice this proc does actually fix the issue)
cuts down a ton of copypasted "you can't drop x" messages on item drop checks by putting it into the drop_item proc, with a flag to show it where necessary
Closes #36470.

Changelog

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• bugfix: Putting in hand adjacency now checks when inside things too again.
• bugfix: Wired rods, cattle prods and spears no longer teleport into user's hands on telekinesis when made anymore.
• bugfix: Items stuck to one's hand can no longer be removed by creating an item with it in many cases.
• bugfix: Superglue-laden items can no longer have the glue removed by creating an item on them in many cases.

[kilozombie]

Why does this change 80 files

[SECBATON-GRIFFON]

Why does this change 80 files

lot of it cuts down redundant code with the drop_item proc and failure messages, moved into the proc itself with support for a custom message and a default, most of the cut lines were the same so it was reused as the default, the rest were made custom.