GEODE-8856: Persist gateway-sender startup-action

[jvarenina]

New startup-action parameter with values "stop", "pause" and "start" is now persisted
during the runtime when following commands are issued:

• pause gateway-sender --> startup-action="pause"
• stop gateway-sender --> startup-action="stop"
• start gateway-sender --> startup-action="start"
• resume gateway-sender --> startup-action="start"

The startup-action parameter is persisted within cluster configuration when above gfsh
commands are executed successfully on at least one of the servers. Parameter is
not updated and persisted when commands are executed per member as
cluster configuration is not persisted in that case.

New startup-action parameter will now inter-work with manual-start in a following way:

• If manual-start="true" and startup-action parameter is missing, then gateway sender
  will require manual start (same as before).
• If manual-start is not set (or "false") and startup-action parameter is missing, then
  gateway sender will be started automatically (same as before).
• If parameter startup-action is available in cluster configuration at startup,
  then gateway-sender will try to reach that state regardless of manual-start
  parameter value.

The manual-start is also improved in order to fully comply to above requirement to
start gateway sender in stopped state.

Current problem with manual-start parameter:

Currently, when manual-start is configured to be "true", then colocated persistent
parallel gateway sender queue region and buckets are not recovered after server
is restarted. Because of that the main persistent region that is colocated with
gateway sender queue region cannot reach online status.

Solution to manual-start problem implemented in this commit:

When manual-start parameter is "true" or gateway sender startup-action is "stop", then
persistent parallel gateway-sender queues will now be recovered (if needed) from
persistent storage during startup of the server. Queues will be recovered by using the
existing mechanism that is used when gateway sender is automatically recovered
(manual-start==false) after server is restarted. In this case parallel gateway sender
queue persistent region and buckets are recovered (if needed) right after the main
persistent region and buckets are recovered.

Additionally in above case, parallel gateway sender will now reach the same state
that it has when first started and then stopped by using gfsh command. In that state
parallel gateway sender queue buckets remain on the servers, but dispatcher threads are
stopped and non of the events are stored in queues.

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