backport: merge bitcoin#19763, #20653, #20756, #19315, #20646, #21015, #19771, #21425, #21236, #21198, #21707, #21785, #21506, #22107, partial bitcoin#21186, merge gui#226, partial gui#206 (networking backports: part 2)

backport: merge bitcoin#19763, #20653, #20756, #19315, #20646, #21015, #19771, #21425, #21236, #21198, #21707, #21785, #21506, #22107, partial bitcoin#21186, merge gui#226, partial gui#206 (networking backports: part 2) #310