[FEA] Convert rmm resource parameters to rmm::device_async_resource_ref

[ttnghia]

In order to move along with rmm code refactoring, similar to rapidsai/cudf#15507, we need to perform a repository-wide conversion from rmm::mr::device_memory_resource * into rmm::device_async_resource_ref.

This needs to be done ASAP before rmm::mr::device_memory_resource * is removed from rmm.

[pmattione-nvidia]

Merged PR 2011 does much of this work; this conversion has now been performed at all of the kernel interfaces. However the resource allocator in SparkResourceAdaptor.jni still uses device_memory_resource and needs to be updated.